What's the best way to get better at something? Practice, practice, practice.
It doesn't matter how much you learn from this article or from other resources. In the end, the only way to get better is to actually apply what you learn and put it into practice out in the "real world" where it matters. Where real women are. That's the only way to master this material.
So, get out there, and start talking to women. Don't worry if you make mistakes. That's how you will learn and become better.
And, don't forget your mistakes either! Remember the "lessons" within them. Learn from them. Become better. Test everything out on women and keep improving on them. We all have our own styles and personalities. By practicing and testing, you'll find what works best for you.
I've given you enough information here to beat most guys to the finish line. You now have the "unfair advantage" over most guys, and most women too! ☺
Use it wisely. Use it responsibly.
I will leave you with those wise words, Oh Future Seduction Master. ☺
Remember to have fun with this! And enjoy the results you get!
And Have A Great ChristmasTags: New Year, Arts and Entertainment, New Year Resolution, real women, real world <BR/>
When I tell most guys to kiss the woman at this point, they get scared and surprised.
"Well, what if she doesn't want to be kissed," they ask me.
My response is… How will you find that out unless you go for the kiss??
And, for Pete's sake, don't ask for permission before you kiss her. That's what a "nice guy" would do. You're not a nice guy.
Just watch her and see what signals she gives you. Then, go in for the kiss.
Note: You're not "forcing" yourself on her. You're paying attention to how she feels and reacts. If she's not comfortable with it yet, she'll stop you. That's ok. No big deal. Don't take it as rejection. She's just not ready for it yet.
Talk more about feelings and emotions, and past experiences. Yours, hers, other peoples. The more she talks about it and feels all the emotions again, the more she will associate those feelings with you and the more ready she will become.
Sometimes, the first meeting is all it will take. Other times, it may take 2, 3, or maybe even 4 meetings before you get really hot and heavy.
Keep your head in the game. Don't lose patience, and whatever you do, do NOT become desperate or angry. That is a turn off, and it's also what will scare her off.
Remember, you want her to chase you! So, don't appear too available. Give her reasons that will want her to chase you! Set up the challenges as you did initially, and let it be known that you are a "rare commodity." Guys like you are scarce, and she doesn’t meet one everyday.
So, if she's smart, she will do what it takes to keep you. Again, you're turning the tables on her. Usually, it's the men who will do whatever it takes to hold on to the woman, even if she's completely worthless.Tags: Operating Systems, Human Interest <BR/>
Again, preparation is key. Think of how you'd want your perfect kiss to be. Or ask one of your female friends to help you out with it.
NOTE: Do you notice the "language" I'm using when I talk about these 'emotional' experiences? I'm talking the way most women think and experience life. They're very sensuous and romantic beings. They love "details" and elaborate descriptions, especially when it comes to the subject of romance and sex. It's also why they're a lot more interested in long, extended foreplay than most men are.
If you really want to get good at having women feel strong emotions while they're with you, pick up a romance novel the next time you're in the bookstore or library. Flip through the pages and read how the story is told, and how the authors describe events and experiences in it. Don't just read the story, pay attention to the "language" - pay attention to how they talk.
Remember, if you want to be able to sell to your target market, you've gotta know how to 'speak their language.'
You: Mine would have to start out reeeeally slow. So that our lips are just barely touching. And when they do make contact, you can almost feel this tingling sensation, this shiver up your spine. You can feel the soft lips touching yours. Warm, slightly wet… so sensual… so romantic… it just turns you on so much. You know?
Her: (Breathing heavily now) Um hmmm
Remember, as you're describing that perfect kiss in detail (in "present" tense) she is going to start imagining it all in her mind, and she's really going to start getting very turned on.
Keep monitoring her comfort level at all times. (In fact, it's a very good idea to do this from the very beginning of the game, right from the moment you first meet and talk to her.)Tags: Entertainment Culture, Romance novel, Human Interest, perfect kiss, Online Writing <BR/>
So, the bottom line is, if you find a great woman who isn't out to play mind games, you can have a wonderful time with her.
Although, if you happen to be living in the "real world," you'll probably run across some women, who may not be bad people, but are just "programmed" to respond to men in a not-so-nice way. Many of them don't do this on purpose, it's just what they've been "programmed" to do.
When you come across a situation like that, the strategies I've provided in this article may be your only defense. And your only chance at passing those silly tests of hers and getting to meet the "real woman" behind all those mind games.
My advice to you would be to learn the above strategies, and use them as you see fit, whenever you feel there's a need for it.
Don't use it just so you can start playing games with them. That's not what these tools are designed for.
If you're a nice guy and you 'know' that you'd be much better for a woman that some jerk out there who tricks her into a relationship, if you know for a fact that you're going to treat her better than most other men out there, I don't believe there's anything wrong with using some of the above strategies to level the playing field.
Women are in fact looking for that special guy who can sweep them off their feet, make her feel feelings and sensations that she doesn't normally feel with most men. In some ways, you're doing her a favor by introducing these tools to her!
In the end, the choice is entirely yours. If you're okay with using them, go for it. If you'd rather not, I have still given you enough information in other sections of this book that will get you as many dates as you want.
Onwards…Tags: Human Interest, Sexual intercourse, mind games <BR/>
Women know that they have power over men when it comes to dating and sex. They know it and they take full advantage of it.
Dating is also a way for many women to get free dinners and presents out of men. That's just the way things are for the majority of society.
So… is it "fair" to level the playing field a little by using some of the strategies I've given you above? Is it fair to keep taking the abuse that women throw your way during "most" dating situations?
Is it fair that only the good looking, the rich, or the powerful get their pick of the best women while you have to settle for the bottom of the barrel?
Remember, it's very easy for women to get dates, and even get sex whenever they want. For men, it's not that easy. Society has 'rigged' the game against you.
So, if you think the game is fair right now, I'm sorry to tell you that you're sadly mistaken.
Now… if you happen to find a woman who doesn't believe in playing games, who is honest, and likes you for who you are, then my friend, you've hit jackpot. In that instance, you won't need some of the stuff I've outlined above. All you'll need to do is talk like to grown adults.
Unfortunately, that's not a common experience for most men when dealing with "most" women.
Don't get me wrong. Women can be wonderful, loving, caring beings that can make you happy beyond belief. I honestly believe that.
But… there are also a LOT of women out there with low self-esteem, social and sexual hangups, depression or some other condition, and of course there are those that are just downright bitches when it comes to dating. They have this "need" to control men and make them dance around just so they can feel better about themselves. It's the only way they can exercise their power.Tags: United States, Human Interest <BR/>
Remember… women are "emotional creatures." Don't be afraid to get a little vulnerable yourself. Leave that "macho" façade at home. You don't need it here. You can be strong and manly, and still be sensitive and emotional. Find a nice balance between the two.
And, when she talks (i.e. answers your questions) listen to what she's saying! Her answers will give you lots of interesting ideas for further stimulating conversation.
Here's an example of something that happened to me at a bookstore…
I went up to the cashier to check out my books. While she was ringing them up, I noticed a very unique ring on her finger. It definitely looked like it had been around for many, many years.
I really hadn't planned on striking up a conversation with her. But the ring just happened to catch my attention.
So, I asked her about it.
Me: Hey, cool ring, where'd you get it?
Notice that I asked an open-ended question! Something she couldn't just answer a 'yes' or 'no' to. She would have to go into a little more detail to answer it.
That one question turned into a 20-minute conversation where she told me that the ring once belonged to her great grandmother and was passed on down to her. It was an amazing conversation, and I could tell that she was very passionate about the ring as well as the history behind it.
At the end of the conversation, she was almost sad to see me go since we were having such a great time.
Do you think she would look forward to seeing me again? You bet! All because I paid attention to "her" as a "person" - instead of just staring at her chest and wondering what I could say to "impress" her.
The best compliment you can give to a woman is to show her that you want to get to know who she is "inside" that attractive body, something most men can't look past.
And, in order to do that, you have to get out of your own head. You have to put your "lust" aside and become interested in the "person" that she is.
That's what's sexy! That's what women respond to. They want to feel appreciated for who they are, not just for how they look physically. At least during the initial meetings, when you're just getting to know each other.Tags: Religion and Spirituality, Question Answering, Closed-ended question, Human Interest <BR/>
What's the easiest way to bond with a stranger?
Think about this...
How are most friendships formed? It starts when you find out that the other person has something in common with you. That the two of you are alike in some way, when you share a common interest.
That relationship becomes even stronger when you begin to realize that the other person understands you, that's he's going through the same challenges that you are!
Nothing creates a bond faster between two people than sharing something in common, especially a common pain or frustration.
Before you can get a person to do what you want them to do, you have to first meet them where they are "mentally", and see things from their point of view! Only from there can you lead them towards the destination you have chosen.
This is a powerful strategy that master marketers and motivators use to lead people.
The easiest way to begin to create that bond is to 'ask' her (open-ended) questions about 'herself.' The most favorite subject for most people is "themselves."
Show her that you're genuinely interested in getting to know her better. And don't fake it. Actually be interested. (Be different from most other guys, remember? You have to keep that theme going the entire time. You have to establish your uniqueness from the beginning and then continue to build on that.)
Remember what I said earlier… you're not just "pretending" to be a better man. You're actually "becoming" a better man.
Don't ask her what her favorite color is, or what her "sign" is. Those are lame questions that "most guys" ask. Remember, you're not "most guys." You're that "unique" guy that has got her attention. ☺
Start off by asking general questions: work, interests, hobbies, etc.
Then, go a little further by asking about family, friends, her future goals, dreams, passions.Tags: Instant Rapport, Ask an Expert, Color preferences, Human Interest <BR/>
Here's something interesting about how men and women differ: Men have sex with women first and then they fall in love. Women fall in love with men first, and then they have sex with them.
Men are ready to sleep with a woman on the first date, if they find her attractive. Women operate a little differently. Of course, this is not always the case. But, most times it is.
What does that tell you? It tells me that in order for 'most' women to feel comfortable about having sex with you, they first need to feel an emotional connection with you.
Women are emotional creatures. This is why they devour romance novels and can't resist romantic movies. It's also why those little romantic gestures mean more to them than presents you spend money on. (Gold diggers excluded.)
In most cases, it takes women at least 3 or 4 dates before they can begin to feel comfortable and 'ready' to want to sleep with you. Sometimes longer.
But, here's what's interesting… it doesn't have to take that long for them to get to that place in their mind. You can speed up the process, if you know how.Tags: Human sexual activity, sex with women, Sexual intercourse, something interesting, Romance novel, men and women <BR/>
You should understand that the only reason this worked is because I showed her, from the very beginning, that I was 'unique.' I got her attention the moment I verbally slapped her to put her in her place.
AND… I also showed her that her being a bitch was unacceptable to me, and that I was willing to walk away from her if I didn't like what I saw. That's very important!
Something very important for you to understand is that other people cannot control how you feel. So, don't give them that power! It doesn't matter what the woman says or does, you're always in control of your emotions.
If she's being a bitch, you can calmly (but firmly) put her in her place. I can't tell you how much of a turn on this can be for some women. Finally, a guy who will not put up with her bullshit! She doesn't find a guy like that often.
As I mentioned earlier, this is also why women are drawn to jerks and/or "bad boys." These men walk around believing that they have "nothing to lose." If a woman turns them down, they know that there are hundreds more they can talk to.
THAT's the attitude you should have too. Have fun with the process. You should view 'approaching women' as an adventure where you're going to find out just what kind of woman you're dealing with and how you can find out if she's good enough for you!
WARNING: While this approach works very well with women, don't get arrogant or egotistical with it. Women still want a guy who can respect her as a woman, someone with a good heart. They really are looking for a nice guy. But, not so nice that she can step all over him without him doing anything about it. She wants a nice guy with a backbone. Someone who is a gentleman, BUT will not take crap from her.
As I explained earlier, often times, women do this purposely to test you! If you let them walk all over you, if you don't put them in their place when they are wrong, they won't think much of you. And you may not get anywhere with her.
I realize that I’m repeating some things here. It's for good reason. They are extremely important concepts for you to understand and adopt.
After you've set up the first meeting/date, it's time to move to the next important phase.Tags: nice guy, Sexual attraction <BR/>
Be ready to walk away if she is being too difficult or if she's not smart enough to appreciate what you have to offer her. Some women are just too dumb to recognize the opportunity to be with a man who is clearly more evolved and refined than most men. You don't want to deal with these women anyway. They will only cause you grief later on, just trust me on this one.
Remember the reason why women are drawn to jerks? It's because they have no problem walking away from women if she's not playing ball.
I want you to understand from the very beginning that there are thousands (if not millions) of women out there. Smart, sexy, beautiful, funny, generous and giving women. Women who will even drive you wild in bed. So, DON'T settle for the damaged or just plain stupid women. Some of them are just not worth your time. You really have to cement this into your brain right now.
It's also the only way you'll be able to ever establish your scarcity, which believe me, is one of the most attractive qualities in a man, from a woman's point of view. (Remember, they want most what they can't have!)
Turn it into a challenge for her!
Here's an example of a pickup that didn't initially go in the direction I wanted it to…
Me: Hey, I have those exact same shoes, but I can't wear them out because they gave me a ticket for being in violation of breaking the 'noise' code.
Her: (Puts this weird expression on her face that screams "How dare you talk to me, the wondrous, miraculous princess of beauty??" as she keeps on walking.)
(Now this is where most guys would have just given up… or worse… they would have felt angry/hurt/rejected, they would have called her names or cursed at her and walked away. And guess what, that's what women are "used to!" They know that they have the power to easily get such a reaction out of men.)
Me: (Smiling) You know, a part of me was absolutely sure that you wouldn't have a sense of humor at all, especially since you're a bit better looking than most people.
BUT… I decided to give you the benefit of the doubt anyway… and find out IF maybe you had anything more to offer than just your "looks."
You have yourself a nice day now! (And I started to walk away.)
Now… notice what happened above, and especially notice how it is different from what most guys would do in a similar situation.
After she gave me that weird "how dare you" look, I gently slapped her verbally. It's something she probably would have never expected. And as great as she looked, it's also probably something she's not used to (since most guys probably put her on a pedestal just because she looks "hot.")
Her: (Turns around to face my direction, as I'm walking away.) Uhh… hey, wait… listen… I'm sorry. I've just had a bad day… and I'm kind of in a rush…
So, what I did above immediately shifted her focus… I had her attention (because it was something she wasn't expecting.) That's the first step!
And I did all this without being angry or obnoxious. I did it without being a jerk. I simply stated the facts to her, from my point of view, with a very pleasant look on my face. (That's part of the fun for them… to get a reaction out of you when they simply ignore you. Most guys get upset or just feel rejected.)
Me: (Turning around to face her) Are you saying that you're not usually this rude and arrogant around people?
Again, I'm setting it up to where she has to try and prove to me that she's worth my time, or that she's a better person than what I think she is at this point in time.
Her: I'm really not.
Me: Alright… well, if you buy me a cup of coffee, maybe I'll forgive your behavior. Maybe I'll even tell you about this yacht that crashed into my front door last night.
Notice again, how I turned the table on her. She's used to guys buying her coffee or dinner or whatever. Except in this case, I'm having her do the buying. AND.. I also added something else into the mix… a "bonus" if you will… sharing a weird "yacht crashing into my front door" story with her. I used this to create further interest and intrigue. You can prepare an interesting story or experience of your own to use here, preferably something 'real' that actually happened, either to you or to someone else.
By the way, my 'yacht' story turned out to be a 'dream' I had recently had. Shhh.. don't tell anyone.
Her: Well…I... I can't... I have to get to the cleaners before they close.
Me: Ok… no 'weird yacht crashing' story for you, I guess.
Again, I'm just dangling the bonus in front of her… instead of "begging" which is what most guys would do.
Will it work? I don't know. Only one way to find out, right?
I'm also showing again that it's "not a big deal" for me if she decides to walk. It's not the end of the world for me. I actually feel this way! I'm not just doing this for show.
Her: Uh.. well.. if you can wait 5 minutes, I just have to run in there and pick a few things up…?
Me: Hmm…. well, alright. Don't say I never did anything for you. (Smirk)
When things are back on track, I subtly introduce humor into the conversation.
Her: (Smiles) Okay, I'll be out in a bit!Tags: They (2002 film) <BR/>