For many reasons, you know him to be a "hole" as you perceive him or have heard elsewhere - but, she sees him in a different light. On many an occasion, she knows he is a "hole", but he creates a certain tension with her, maybe even has a knack of being manipulative over her. Maybe he is able to please her sexually and that's what keeps them together. Maybe even sports a shed-load of cash, by which she feels that she is with a winner.

Whatever it is, you can rest assured that he most likely exerts some (if not all) of the following characteristics:

• Dominance (over others)
• Confidence
• Status
• Good genetics
• Wealth

Which are characteristics that win over the majority of women (of beauty).

Don't feel that you cannot compete with that kind of guy. Never feel that way.

If she is unhappy - she will leave, so long as there is something better to go to.

You don't necessarily have to be a jerk to get girls. But, it may be worth taking note of certain characteristics.

The idea is to be able to project these characteristics coupled with a fun-loving, exciting vibe that makes women feel good to be around you.

You don't have to be rich either - which is great.

Wealth appears in many forms. Personality, ability, drive - just your outlook on life can be an asset, so long as it is positive and encourages development.

The key is fun, comfort, excitement - if you make her smile, she feels great around you ñthere is attraction then anything is possible.

Knowing how to go about adopting these traits is something that can be arranged aside from the genetics aspect - we are what we are!

It's time you get the kind of relationship you desire

Here is the scenario, you're going to a bar or club with the intent on attracting women, getting some numbers, or some more - this is where impressions count.

Women, unlike men are acute to witness who exactly comes through that bar door - the reason being that if they are single, they'll be hoping to see a guy who is clearly what they are looking for. Here is where you start to impress girls.

An entrance is required - stroll through confidently. This doesn't mean to pose as you walk through, but to act like you own the place helps - have a joke with the bouncer before you walk in. Have a laugh with your people - whatever, so long as you stroll through with a smile on your face and have the appearance of being a social monster.

Be ready to slip into group mode. You should be thinking along the lines that everybody in there is your friend, and that you don't care what happens because you are the show.

Opening groups is usually the right path, seeing as women are generally found in pairs or groups and in mixed groups with guys.

You can open with anything and the more random the better, like:

"Did you guys catch the name of the girl who got chucked out of here 5 minutes ago?, it was hilarious, I found her shoe and put it in her bag as she was carried out - I got no thanks"

If you are lined up at the bar awaiting a drink and a woman is next to you - talk to her.

Here is a line I like to use every now and then...

"Do you want to see something funny? I bet you a drink that the barman/woman serves you first before me, even though I've been here longer - check it out"

The fact that you are saying something is impressive - just remember to switch on the charm - i.e. being funny, witty. You can even play with the above line - somewhere along the lines of...

"So how do you feel about discrimination, seeing as we are about to bear witness to some?"

Don't buy girls/everybody drinks in the hope that this will impress them - you impress by what you say and how you act i.e. displaying confident body language and not looking around the room for some sort of acceptance.

Having fun is key, so go forth and have fun - that's how you impress girls in a bar.

A lot of guys have no clue what to say to a girl. They complain about girls constantly being disinterested in them all the time, but they don't realise the reason they are is because they are saying the wrong things. Let us face it, girls don't think like guys. You have to approach them from a different angle and as a result, you have a different type of conversation with them.

Below I am going to share with you some great tips which will reveal what to say to a girl in order to make her want to be with you:

1. Tell her she isn't good enough for you: I know some of you are probably thinking what the hell is he saying. This is probably the last thing you had on your mind and this is where you are wrong. In general, girls like to go for guys they have to work for. If you easily show your cards and are all over them, they lose interest very quickly. So you make it clear to them you are not interested in them. It's called reverse psychology. They are used to being the ones saying they are not interested, you now are the one who is telling them that. They will be all over you after that.

2. Challenge Her. That is right challenge her. Tell her you want to discover if she is interesting. Say that beauty is common these days, there are lots of beautiful girls out there, but it is rare to find someone who is interesting with a great personality. So challenge her to something that will make her demonstrate to you she is interesting. Use your imagination, the more fun and challenging, the more she will get into it.

3. Make it look she is the one after you. Even if you approached her and started the conversation, tell her you got the impression that she was interested in you. Say something like, I noticed you were starring at me so I thought I would give you a chance to meet me. However, say it in a playful and cheeky way. Again, reverse psychology is in play here. She is used to guys going after her, make it look like she is the one going after you. That will throw her off guard, which is what you want. You don't want to be like every other guy.

Here's the scenario:

You meet a girl in a bar, you talk for a while - she laughs at what you say, you make for an exit as you have to be somewhere, but would like to follow up the conversation - you whip out your phone as to exchange numbers - she looks at you funny and says "sorry, I can't" or "sorry, I've got a boyfriend". Erk...

• Why did this happen? Ask yourself the following questions:
• Did she look comfortable talking to you in terms of body language?
• Did she invest in the interaction conversationally?
• Did you make any connection? (i.e. you got to her)
• Did she look like she wanted you to leave?
• Was she smiling and laughing.
• Did she touch you as you spoke?

It all depends on your interaction and you have to hit the key notes.

The idea is that there has to be sufficient ATTRACTION built - she needs to have some sort of memory of you and it being a positive one. (That guy rocks!)

Remember that to get that number (and for it to convert), you have to make sure you leave an impression, you are different from the rest in some way and that you guys are enjoying each other's company. A quick number close may not always convert. Leave an impression.

Here are some tips:

• Have interesting things to say - conversational skill is key.
• Like anything, if you lack - then practice.
• Don't forget to touch her periodically - when she is investing and is having fun.
• Be cheeky, remember to smile if you challenge her on anything or playfully argue.
• 80% of your presentation is your body language - be conscious of what it says.
• The 20% of what you say - should be stimulating.
• If she says she has a boyfriend - congratulate her! "Well done. That's fantastic. I have a girlfriend too" (Now you are on equal footing).

When you exchange numbers - remember to talk a little more before you head for the door, or back to your people (Don't just leg it!).

It's all about your approach - you mess up here and it can be embarrassing as you may have discovered in the past.

Whether you are approaching on the street, in a cafe, in a bar, wherever you meet women - delivery is as important as what you say when you do approach - 80% body language is how we communicate, so be wary of what you are communicating to her.

If you are being way too obvious in your movement toward her, or what you just said to her - beware, for you have already been judged.

If you guys had been locking eyes - then you can be forgiven (watch out here).

As she is indicating that she already wants you to talk to her - just be wary that nothing is set in stone, and you can still be blasted right where you stand.

If you don't care, then you're thinking along the right terms.

Rejection is not so harsh when you are detached from the outcome and conversely - your performance is that much better without the pressure.

If she has seen you coming from a mile away - you've just given her ample opportunity to shut you down. A better approach would be something just that little bit more on the spot - it just happened, almost by coincidence.

You could say something random like:

"Did you guys catch the name of the girl who got chucked out of here 5 minutes ago?, it was hilarious, I found her shoe and put it in her bag as she was carried out - I got no thanks!"

When you approach, you have to be conscientious about what is comfortable, what is audible and your position as to who you are addressing.

If talking to a girl in a group, be aware of who she is with. If she is with people, get to know them as well even if she introduces you to her boyfriend.

Having fun is key, if you're having fun, she'll pick up on that and be more responsive to you when you do approach.