What's the easiest way to bond with a stranger?
Think about this...
How are most friendships formed? It starts when you find out that the other person has something in common with you. That the two of you are alike in some way, when you share a common interest.
That relationship becomes even stronger when you begin to realize that the other person understands you, that's he's going through the same challenges that you are!
Nothing creates a bond faster between two people than sharing something in common, especially a common pain or frustration.
Before you can get a person to do what you want them to do, you have to first meet them where they are "mentally", and see things from their point of view! Only from there can you lead them towards the destination you have chosen.
This is a powerful strategy that master marketers and motivators use to lead people.
The easiest way to begin to create that bond is to 'ask' her (open-ended) questions about 'herself.' The most favorite subject for most people is "themselves."
Show her that you're genuinely interested in getting to know her better. And don't fake it. Actually be interested. (Be different from most other guys, remember? You have to keep that theme going the entire time. You have to establish your uniqueness from the beginning and then continue to build on that.)
Remember what I said earlier… you're not just "pretending" to be a better man. You're actually "becoming" a better man.
Don't ask her what her favorite color is, or what her "sign" is. Those are lame questions that "most guys" ask. Remember, you're not "most guys." You're that "unique" guy that has got her attention. ☺
Start off by asking general questions: work, interests, hobbies, etc.
Then, go a little further by asking about family, friends, her future goals, dreams, passions.Tags: Human Interest, Ask an Expert, Instant Rapport, Color preferences <BR/>