How And Why To Create Instant Rapport – Part 2

Remember… women are "emotional creatures." Don't be afraid to get a little vulnerable yourself. Leave that "macho" façade at home. You don't need it here. You can be strong and manly, and still be sensitive and emotional. Find a nice balance between the two.

And, when she talks (i.e. answers your questions) listen to what she's saying! Her answers will give you lots of interesting ideas for further stimulating conversation.

Here's an example of something that happened to me at a bookstore…

I went up to the cashier to check out my books. While she was ringing them up, I noticed a very unique ring on her finger. It definitely looked like it had been around for many, many years.

I really hadn't planned on striking up a conversation with her. But the ring just happened to catch my attention.

So, I asked her about it.

Me: Hey, cool ring, where'd you get it?

Notice that I asked an open-ended question! Something she couldn't just answer a 'yes' or 'no' to. She would have to go into a little more detail to answer it.

That one question turned into a 20-minute conversation where she told me that the ring once belonged to her great grandmother and was passed on down to her. It was an amazing conversation, and I could tell that she was very passionate about the ring as well as the history behind it.

At the end of the conversation, she was almost sad to see me go since we were having such a great time.

Do you think she would look forward to seeing me again? You bet! All because I paid attention to "her" as a "person" - instead of just staring at her chest and wondering what I could say to "impress" her.

The best compliment you can give to a woman is to show her that you want to get to know who she is "inside" that attractive body, something most men can't look past.

And, in order to do that, you have to get out of your own head. You have to put your "lust" aside and become interested in the "person" that she is.

That's what's sexy! That's what women respond to. They want to feel appreciated for who they are, not just for how they look physically. At least during the initial meetings, when you're just getting to know each other.