Now I am sure you are anxious to know how to approach women if you have read my previous two articles. Today we finally get into the approach itself and what works. As I said before don’t be fooled by what some of the gurus and posers are telling you, a load of it is rubbish. I explained my reasons why.
As you now know, the moment you approach a women (especially a beautiful girl) you are coming in from a position of weakness. Whether you like it or not she has the upper hand. By the way, I am talking about a random girl, a woman you never met before.
You do not want to come in from that position as it puts the odds against you. Most likely she is going to reject your advances (no matter what you do) unless she is ALREADY attracted to you, which is most likely going to be as a result of your looks. I hate to say it guys, but this is the truth.
Since you are now armed with this information, the first thing you need to do before you think about learning any approach “method”, routine and so on is fix yourself up. There is NO WAY around it. A girl will be more attracted to a guy or much more easily attracted to a guy if she finds him good looking. Whatever you say will suddenly become much funnier or much more cooler or much more interesting. This is a FACT gentlemen!
So please don’t believe it when they say looks don’t matter because they do. Now there is good news. It is not a hopeless case. You don’t need to look like Brad Pitt (although it would help) you can actually dramatically improve the way you look and look much more attractive to girls without having to visit a plastic surgeon. And I am not talking about wearing some odd hat, goggles, a weird necklace or some other accessories that are not you. You will look ridiculous in them if they don’t match your personality.
I am talking about working on improving your looks. This is the FIRST thing you need to work on if you want a chance in successfully approaching women. There are a number of ways to do this. The first thing you need to do is get in physical shape. You want to get a great body. Look guys, we cannot control how our face looks, but we can control how our body looks. If you respect yourself and want girls to respect you then you need to get off your butt and work on improving your body.
Your body will improve your facial features and lots of women are attracted to a hot body.
Get that gym membership you been putting behind or finally use that gym membership you haven’t been using. There is no way around it you need to work-out! Now if you got no clue what you are doing, hire a personal trainer who does for a few sessions. Just to get you started and in the right direction. If you can’t afford to hire a personal trainer or even a gym membership at this point (come on guys it is only $40-60 a month) then do your research online. There are lots of workouts you can do from home and jogging in the park which is free. Just google it and you will find it.
Secondly, you need to get rid of the junk you are eating and eat healthy. You want to get rid of the fat and start to get toned. I want you to research a number of diets online. One I recommend and that worked for me is a low-carb diet. Check out Tim Ferris’s 4hour body, he gets into detail about it. You can find the detail for free on his blog or google it. It is a very simple diet but it WORKS! Make sure you consult your doctor before starting any diet.
Now you might be thinking why he is he focusing on me losing weight and getting in top physical shape? Where are those routines? I am focusing on getting in top physical shape because that is going to be the NUMBER ONE FACTOR that is going to get your girls. That will make a HUGE DIFFERENCE in how you approach women and how they will respond to you.
In fact, a group of psychologists did a study last year where they had two groups of guys approach women. No one in any of the groups was what you would consider naturally good looking. They were all average looking guys, who had struggled with women in the past.
One group of guys were equipped with the latest “pick-up” technology. They had all the techniques and routines down; they had an arsenal of openers. They had completed an 8 week intensive boot camp with a number of so called gurus. They spend 8 weeks religiously studying this stuff. They also wore some outlandish outfits to try to make themselves more interesting to the girls they were approaching. I will also note that they were out of shape. Some of them were over-weight, others had pot bellies and others were really under-weight. In any event, none of them were in top physical shape.
The second group were not armed with any “pick-up” technology. They had no routines to help them out. Nothing. However, they had completed an 8 week intensive physical training regimen. They went to the gym on a regular basis and were trained by a personal trainer. They watched their diets and at the end of eight weeks they were in top physical shape. They looked great. They did not wear any outlandish outfits, but clothes that showed off their new bodies.
Each group was given a task of approaching ten random girls who are considered to be beautiful. After the tasks were completed they tested to see which group had more successful approaches. What do you think the result revealed?
The second group beat the first group by a WIDE margin. They were three times more successful in their approaches having NO routines but being in top physical shape. While the other group, despite having some top “pick up training” were defeated by the guys with good bodies.
If you are really serious about getting good with women and want to attract them then do yourself a favour and get in top physical shape. That is step one. There is no short cut to it. Instead of investing in a pick up boot camp, go to the gym. Within a few weeks you will be much more successful with women then if you would have gone to that boot camp.
I want you to know this is a goal that can be achieves. It is not as hard as it seems. It is very easy to get started. You just got to get started and stick to it. Just take that first step.
Think of how much better you will be with women because you are doing this. Think about all the hot women you will be able to attract because of what you are doing. Let that motivate you.
In my next article we will be discussing the next step of how to approach women (the right way!).Tags: Weight loss, Junk food, Human physical appearance, Tim Ferris, how to approach women <BR/>